How To Effectively Conquer Loneliness

Dear friend,

Loneliness is the biggest obstacle slowing us down on the road to reaching happiness. Not many feelings cause so much anxiety and sadness. The fact that separates loneliness from other roadblocks on our road to fulfillment is that it can show its face anytime and anywhere. So conquering it is extremely difficult.

Why is overcoming loneliness so hard?

Have you ever found yourself surrounded by a huge crowd of people, hearing the sound of dreaded small talk, plus sensing judgmental eyes looking straight at you? This alone makes many of us feel lonelier than almost any other situation. Even to this day I keep hearing: “He is so weird”, because I love spending hours in bookstores alone, and because I would rather have a relaxed evening with a friend than go clubbing in a pub.

If I’m honest, I feel lonely where I am currently. This is not permanent of course, because there are many moments when happiness does find its way to my face and makes me smile. But my loneliness comes from the knowledge that everyone I hold dear live thousands of miles away. Luckily, social media gives me the chance to communicate with those I cherish the most on a daily basis.

In the past, I would follow my career and where it took me would be an okay place for me to be. Now it’s much different. Having sacrificed years of my life to have a career I love and doing what I really want to do, I became extremely lonely as a consequence of that choice. However, there are positive changes happening. 🙂

Overcoming loneliness can be hard, because so many of us often feel misunderstood and rejected. We feel that no one understands us and that we are all alone in our way of thinking. It’s not easy to win the battle against feeling lonely, but it is definitely possible. In order to do that you need to…

Fully Embrace Who You Are

If you want to overcome loneliness you need shake off doubt. Shake of the self-criticism. There is enough of that from others around us. Make yourself your own biggest support. Train, no sorry, order your mind to be your ally.

I’m not saying that loneliness will magically disappear once you speak with your inner self. In fact, it will still be there. But only you can decide will it put you on your knees or propel you to your dreams.

When you do feel lonely, know that feeling is not there to stop you. It’s there to show you that you can do this. Wherever you are right now, and whatever thoughts are rushing through your gentle mind, remember this. Everything that comes your way is not more than you can handle.

Accept your own company, because this is the foundation of how you can reduce the effect of loneliness and conquer it completely. Do whatever makes you feel fulfilled at that given moment, no matter how small it may seem. Take yourself out, indulge yourself, spend some time with you own thoughts and with those you love the most, and I promise you will a better! But before you let someone else in your life, you need to feel comfortable with yourself.

Know that every single event, person, word or feeling that made you feel lonely was there to teach you something. It entered your life to tell you what I’m about to.

Loneliness Is A Road-Sign To Success

Feeling lonely doesn’t feel good, but it has a purpose. It’s there to show you that you are capable of handling everything life throws at you and propel you to where you really want to be. Overcoming loneliness requires strength that you already have, and people will see this, they will be drawn to it.

Do not despair if you feel misunderstood or judged because of who you are. This doesn’t mean there is something wrong with you. It means you are unique, and that those few, selected ones will understand you. They will be drawn to your mystical, kind, generous nature, and they will embrace it. Just like they will accept you for who you are.

This is not something that might happen. People who are meant to be in your life will come to you and stay. This will happen my friend. It’s only a matter of time, that’s all. Until it does, know that you are enough, you always were. 🙂

Have you ever felt lonely? What is your experience with this? We would love to hear from you in the comments below!



4 thoughts on “How To Effectively Conquer Loneliness”

  1. Intellectually I know I am ultimately alone in life. However, there are times I can be at peace with myself I enjoy listening to music or writing or thinking about writing. Nevertheless, I know I want an intimate companion, someone I can love and share my life with. I look around me and see that others have a relationship and I wonder why or how can these people be together and I am alone.

    1. Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us, Brian! You will find that person, that we can assure you. It’s better to be alone for a while than to be in an unhappy relationship. That person will find you too, it’s just a matter of time, that’s all. 🙂

  2. I used to try to subsequently explain myself when I posted a thought that I knew was deeper than most would express or even think, or might seem silly to them because most thrive on trivial things and small talk. But I finally realized that I will never be really understood, nor are my thoughts wrong or off…they are just unique- yet are my truth. I also finally realized that by me thinking aloud and posting on Facebook as a form of sorting my thoughts and decompresssing, yet still reading others’ posts on there, I was overexposing myself to all the contradiction and boastfulness that is social media and it simply added to the mental chaos I sought to dump in the first place. I was overwhelmed being myself in that world. So I quit. Completely. And believe it or not, I am less lonely. I’m not constantly aware of my differences and I’m no longer feeling like a minority in a self-obsessed world. Those that make up my circle (I am blessed with a big family) get my humor and concerns, and they add plenty of their own. For me, the more “friends” I made out there, the more lonely I felt! it felt good to express my thoughts, yet I felt so exposed afterward. I can still read your FB page without being a member, just cannot comment. But I want to thank you again for being there with your insight both on the old and new pages! Good, positive stuff!

    1. Thank you so much Rebecca for taking the time to share this with us! 🙂 Sounds like to me that you have a wonderful way of thinking, and we fully support it! We are honored you follow our page, and read our blog! 🙂

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