5 Surprising Facts About Marko You Probably Didn’t Know

Dear friend,

I think it’s time I share with you some details about myself that I never shared before. It dawned to me yesterday while I was daydreaming on a pleasant Saturday afternoon that here at Dauntless I always ask from you to be vulnerable, but in many instances, I don’t do the same. So it’s time to change that.

Without further delay, here are five interesting facts about me that might surprise you.

1. My INFJ discovery. When I found out that I was an INFJ (the rarest personality type), of course I was happy like all INFJs probably are when discovering this. I finally confirmed to myself that there’s nothing wrong with me. But unlike most, it did not bring me clarity. Quite the contrary. It took me some time to accept it, because I wore the extroverted mask for so long, that I believed I was one. My INFJ discovery wasn’t a pleasant beginning.

Small bonus: Couple of my close people are extroverts, so a big shout-out to them for accepting my innie nature. 🙂

2. The bullying. I was bullied most of my life. Starting from childhood, all the way to high school when it got even worse, even physical. I was the quiet kid who was always picked on, never really given a chance to be who I am. I never raised my voice and I never sought revenge. Instead, I chose my books and solitude as two best friends at the time when I had none. Not many know this, but the reason why I don’t sleep much at night is because I have nightmares on a regular basis due to the bullying I went through as a teenager.

3. Public appearance careers. Know any job where you’re in the spotlight? Well, I did most of them in the past. I was a journalist, event-organizer, announcer, human resources manager, public speaker, customer support agent… Before what I do now at Dauntless Inspiration alongside my dear friend Giselle, I did all those jobs that asked me to always be in the center of attention. For an introvert, that’s not a good combination as we rather want to stay behind the scenes.

4. New Beginning. I never left the borders of my home country for 29 years, (Serbia) before moving to Canada back in March 2018. I’m 31 now. It took me more than five years of preparation to reach the point where I am currently. Only a couple of people know the full extent of what I was going through. It wasn’t easy, but I somehow managed to pull it off. But in order to do that, I left my 9/5 job, moved to a smaller city to save money, had to fully let go the former version of myself, and lost all my friends while preparing to make that leap of faith. You must understand, not everyone agreed with me on what I wanted to do. Well, almost no one did.

5. My bigger why in life. When someone asks me what is my purpose, I only tell them: People. When you grow up lonely and without friends (I don’t have that close of a bond with my family, never did), you do your best to find your people, those who understand and accept you for who you are. My purpose in life is to be there for those I love the most. It’s to never allow the grip of loneliness to embrace them. They are few in numbers, but they are my anchors.

And now, here’s one fact I was really scared to share.

The big surprise…

As much as I want to make a global difference with Dauntless Inspiration, and I know I will do that alongside my amazing friend Giselle, there’s one thing I kept too long to myself. So it’s time for me to let it out.

The goal that pushes me forward, the reason why I travel so much, the wind behind my back, that bigger why in life I talked about to me is to sit next to someone I care for the most. Just to sit next to them. To listen and talk about something meaningful, or just simple things.

Years of isolation and focusing only on career taught me that no amount of money, influence, or power will hold your hand when you need to let it all out. It won’t hug you when you land on that airport, and it won’t tell you: “I enjoy you.”

So if life ever presents me a choice, to choose between my career I sacrificed so much for, or the people I love more than myself? Well, I will not blink twice if I ever have to make that choice. 🙂

I want you to know…

Me in Seattle, April 2019 (I had major conflict should I post a picture of myself lol!)

You will accomplish a lot in life on your own. As in, hella lot. But be vulnerable when you can, and trust the ones you cherish the most. Not because you will give your heart on a sleeve, and thus maybe allow someone to hurt you, but because this is how you’ll find the people who are meant to enter your life, and stay.

These people, the ones who stay no matter how difficult to love you believe you are (and you’re not), they will be your courage, your strength, and your light when all other lights go out.

If you haven’t found them yet, please keep searching, and know that there’s one soul writing this article who is there to listen and cheer for you, no matter what. 🙂

Love,
Marko

I literally poured my heart in this article, so I would love to hear what you think. What are your thoughts on the choices life gives us? How much are you willing to sacrifice to reach the place where you wanna be, and be with those you love?

14 thoughts on “5 Surprising Facts About Marko You Probably Didn’t Know

  1. Aww, that hurts my heart to imagine you suffering alone. Sad kids are my biggest heartache and where I tend to focus my empathy. I had a close family growing up but a sickly mother, so i had my own brand of fears and suffering that i kept inside. I’m so glad you were able to tough it out so that you could bloom and be such a great source of understanding for us! You are greatly appreciated. May your future be nothing like your past.

      1. Marko I am really happy to know who you are. You are loved by all of us. No matter what I will always support! You story is actually beautiful. How? Because all of those past make who you are now. Enjoy your life and help them who are struggling in life. You can teach or give them advise through your experiences which is so valuable thing o do as you do. Well sorry for my English I am just so overwhaming of what you shared to the world 🙂 love♥️ hope♥️ peace 😊

      2. Thank you so so much for this heartfelt comment, Pie! 🙂 Don’t worry, your English is amazing! 🙂 What you wrote here made my day, thank you so much, I’m glad you are here!

    1. Love it Marko, thank you for being so brave and open with us. I too was bullied as a kid, probably not to the extent it sounds like you were, but I have been taken advantage of many times. I became hard and rebellious as a teen in order to find refuge. Now as an adult I’d rather just walk away like you said. I’ve learned most people don’t have hearts like we do. I’ve never felt like I fit in anywhere, like I belong anywhere. I think it’s our INFJ nature, we see things so many different ways. I only found out this year that I was an INFJ and it’s been a relief to hear of others like me even if I don’t know but one other in real life. My dream is to be a counselor or therapist to help others like you do. Mostly I’d like to work with teens because I feel such a burden to give them hope. that there’s so much more to life than their current situations, to help them prepare themselves for a better future further than the hand life dealt them. But really I think I’d just like to help an encourage anyone who wants more out of life. I live for real connections, and deep conversations. I also thought I was an extrovert too because of how fascinated I am by people, but I prefer one on one and small groups.

      1. Thank you so much for this response Rachel! I’m really sorry you had to go through what you did… Know that you have my full support to become a counselor, that is just amazing! Once more, I deeply thank you for what you wrote here. You are not alone. 🙂

  2. Oh Marko, you have been through so much! The fact you have persevered through it all says a lot about you. I hope the future brings you much happiness and companionship- you deserve it!

  3. Thank you so much for sharing your story Marko!

    Like so many INFJs, I was bullied throughout my childhood at school. Home was not a sanctuary for me; I was verbally, emotionally & psychologically abused there.

    I was 15 when I learned I was an INFJ, back in 1985. I didn’t understand what it meant at the time. I actually cried when the counselor told me the test results because I was frightened. I was the only INFJ in my freshman class.

    Flash forward 30 years. I fled a marriage filled with domestic violence. My life is now my own. I can pursue my creative endeavors, make friends with people whom I deem worthy, and completely embrace all those traits that make me who I am.

    I wouldn’t trade my sensitive nature for anything in the world. It has helped me to teach my son, who also has the gift of sensitivity, how to live in a world that is increasingly harsh and unforgiving.

    I may not have all the material goods, financial successes, and other trappings that most people my age have, but my relationship with my son is priceless.

    I am so grateful to be an INFJ.

  4. Thank you so much Marko for sharing this. You’re such an inspiration. We often don’t see what goes on behind closed doors and when people like you share it gives others permission to share their stories and everyone is uplifted. I’m sorry for what you went through. I’m also so grateful you chose to share this. Thank you Marko 🙂

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