2020: New Year, Be You

Dear friend,

2019 is almost over. Whatever happened this year, happened. Let it go. I know that it may be a cliché advice, all that “New Year New Me”… And you will hear so many talking about their NY resolutions, plans, goals, where are they going to travel, that they will find the love of their life… The list goes on, until you actually feel nauseous and just want for some peace.

Stop With All the Wishes And Resolutions

Every single year when I made New year Resolutions and goals, I ended up being disappointed if I missed a deadline for one, or if things didn’t work out how I wanted them to be. Don’t get me wrong, it’s perfectly okay to plan for the next year and what you want to do.

But the issue is that with all these decisions, we only create expectations. For example, I wanted to move to a new apartment when I return to Canada, and to live closer downtown. I also wanted to travel to some destinations that were on my bucket list for years. But guess what?

Life happened.

I also wanted to enter this year with some people that were my biggest support just 11 months back. And now, almost none of those people are present in my life, and I am going back to my old home in Calgary (a home that I love, honestly). Not to forget, I also wanted to have a multiple six figure business. Not going to happen.

But life again happened.  

Present is your most important gift

Instead of everything I wrote above, something much better happened when I stopped making New Year action planning for the next year, creating 12 month plans, and pushing myself to again start the so called “hustle”.

I chose to slow down. Fully and entirely. I made a choice to embrace where I am, who is there, what I am doing, and what I went through to get to where I am at the moment.

These are the results for my 2019:

– I found a handful of people that literally finish my sentences how well we function, and with whom I can speak every day not being afraid to tell them how I feel

– I have a career I am infatuated with, working with people who inspire and bring out the best from me

– I don’t spend an ounce my energy on anyone who isn’t ready to appreciate me for who I am

– I don’t look back for those who left, those who don’t respond, who are “too busy”, and those who only come to me when they need something.

– I am surrounded by those few I cherish dearly, and those who create the time to be there for me regardless of what is happening to them

– New amazing, doors are opening up to me (this is going to be a secret for now 😉 )

Now I didn’t tell you all this to make you feel bad about yourself. I shared this with you because if I could do it, so can you. I am no better than anyone. We all earned the right to walk in the direction of peace, love, and progress.

I told you about my 2019, so that you can see that you are not required to set some massive goals for 2020 in order to succeed. And this is coming from someone who planned every step of the way, always wanting to know what’s going to happen next.

New Year, Be You

Please know, you were enough in 2019, and you will be in 2020. Whatever happens, whatever good or bad comes your way, know this. Only you can decide where to steer your ship. You’re the only one who can catch the wind and sail to wherever you want to go.

You don’t have to make some silly decisions or plan anything for twelve months in advance in order to succeed. I can promise you, life will surprise you, and there will be a bunch of things that will go wrong. I’m not saying you should improvise everything though.

Instead, just allow yourself to be here, now. Don’t hustle to have a life you won’t have time to live.

You won’t miss anything, because what is meant to cross your path will find its way to you. The love of your life, the career of your dreams, the travel of a decade, everything will come to you exactly when it’s supposed to. But until it does, remember one crucial thing…

Live now! You only got one life. Please, don’t spend it chasing something invisible. Plan if you want, journal, that’s all good. But I am urging you, bring your mind and heart to this present moment…

You won’t miss a thing, I promise.

May this 2020 bring you all that your younger self prayed for, everything your future self would be grateful for, and all that will make you present self smile from ear to ear. 🙂

Happy New 2020 everyone! 🙂

Much love

Marko

How will you enter 2020? What are your thoughts on what we shared in this article? Would you agree with it? As always, we would love to hear from you in the comments below!

Why Everything Happened The Way It Did

Dear friend,

It’s not easy to face our past. Few people ever gather the courage to look their past right in the eye and say they moved on. What you need to remember is, it happened because it was supposed to teach you something. It happened, because it needed to bring you where you are now.

Why We Need To Face Our Past

A while ago I had a chance to say hi to my past, literally. I saw a person who meant the world to me almost ten years ago, but this time something was different. Instead of putting her on a pedestal like I used to and saying yes to her every demand and suggestion, something else happened entirely.

I moved on. When I looked into her eyes, I knew I’m this new, brave person who embraced being who he is, where I am now, and where I really want to be. Of course I’m doing what I can to reach that goal that occupies my attention, but a much more important moment happened in my mind that day.

I left my past where it belongs, behind me. Good memories and moments are always welcomed, but that’s about it. You see, most of us tend to dwell in the past, because we relish the chance to question it relentlessly. We ask ourselves: Maybe I could have done something differently… Let me be honest with you right now:

No, you couldn’t.

It Happened Exactly How It Was Supposed To Happen

Everything that has ever happened to you needed to happen. Every single difficulty, lonely moment, pain, and judgment had to come to pass so you could be ready to receive everything you ever wanted. Maybe you’re not where you want to be right now, and that’s okay. Shake off the doubt, shake of the negativity. Remember your dream, because you will reach it.

Look at your past, but leave it where it belongs, far behind you. Let what happened be a proof what a wonderful person you’ve become. Know how giving, caring, and understanding you already are. This is something you should be proud of every single day.

That’s what I am asking you to do. Leave your past-self, and let it go my dear friend. What has transpired wasn’t a punishment. Quite the contrary, it was a lesson, and nothing more. Stop torturing your gentle mind with different outcomes and what could have happened. It’s not just about releasing your previous life and accepting it, but also not allowing it to control you.

If your dream wasn’t alive, on track, and right on schedule, you wouldn’t have so many roadblocks coming against you. Maybe you tried five years ago or ten years ago. It didn’t work out? Start again. Let go of your past, because when you do, you are allowing yourself to embrace the present, and plan the future. You agree giving that future a fighting chance to unfold in all it’s glory and greatness you deserve to have. <3

Here at Dauntless Inspiration, we are your biggest fans, and we are cheering for you every step of the way. You got this! 🙂

Love,

Marko

Have you accepted what happened in your past? Are you still struggling with this? Let us know in the comments below, we would love to hear from you!